And by this in the I like this I mean writing in this glorified electronic public diary. The reason I stumbled upon today was that I am not the biggest fan of live human interaction. Now if you are someone that I am in relatively constant contact with don’t get all butt-hurt but that is partially what I’m talking about. Emotions and my reading of said same can make me crazy when I’m trying to make or understand a simple point.
During communicative interaction some people have a horrible time hiding their true feelings about a thought or subject. Then I go out of my way to draw that out because I know what ever they are saying is complete bullshit as they are afraid to say what they really feel. Then they blurt out their opinion which I never would have asked for if they could have just kept their emotions in check and I feel obligated to react.
I guess my problem boils down to people rendering opinions where they were never requested. One of my peers today questioned me buying lunch for my team in front of them. He even took it as far as to announce to the group that the company would never let me put it on my expenses so I was wasting my own money. I tried to ignore it but that just made him press on. I’m not sure if he was looking for a “thanks” or a “you’re right” but he would grow old waiting for either.
What he finally got when I pulled him aside was a whispered “keep your fucking opinions to yourself” and a “I don’t know who you think you are but my money or anything about me is none of your concern.” We didn’t speak for the rest of the day and I couldn’t have been happier.
I am going to train myself to stop rendering opinions both verbally and non. I have enough of my own things to worry about so passing judgment or offering assistance where none is requested is wasted energy.